Relationships are the filling in the pie of life. There are all kinds of human connections, just like there are all kinds of different people. Some are more resonant than others, but they exist as opportunities to learn, love and resonate at a higher frequency. The question becomes, “How can we feel good about a bad relationship? Or should we?” There are differences between going through it and recognizing that we’re in, or being affected by, a bad interaction with a fellow human being.
Anyone who has gone through a divorce can most likely think back through it and realize that at some point, they recognized (identified) that it was broken or unhealthy. It’s much like dealing with any other negative emotion or difficulty in life; we recognize it, be honest about it, ask questions, look for ways to shift and finally, let go. These steps can take many years or can happen quickly; it depends on the level of responsibility we feel. If we feel responsible, we hold on longer, in many cases longer than is beneficial to us. If we don’t believe we are responsible, the broken alliance is easier to identify and then resolve.
But, ultimately a “bad” association is simply a label put on an experience. Even if this unhealthy, low frequency union was not particularly enjoyable, it manifested itself in our life because we needed to learn something. And therein lies the filling of the pie – the opportunity to learn and grow.
Other relationships are many; friends, family, co-workers and people we know by association with other organizations such as church, hobbies, sports and the list goes on. Some of these are considered close friends or confidants; others are casual friends or professional associates. Generally speaking, we do not identify these interactions as bad or good. Although we will have a boss, co-worker or fellow model car builder that does not resonate with us, it is a good idea not to apply “hate” to the label. We all have our faults and our baggage. To hate another human being is negative energy which doesn’t serve any purpose. No matter what that person may have said or done, they are manifested in our lives, just as we are in theirs. Look for the significance of the experience and be honest and compassionate. The truth is, there is always an opportunity.
Our union with our spouse or life partner can be the most exhilarating experience we ever have or it can be challenging or daunting; often it is both. It is important to re-connect with our partner at a personal and intimate level frequently. We all want the same thing: to be loved, understood, praised and honored. Couples who are successful at those four attributes have it figured out although may still have issues from time to time. Through mutual respect, good communication and flexibility we can all have the love relationship that we ultimately desire.
The ultimate relationship is one of self love, which is defined as unconditional love for the higher self. This will positively affect all of our conncetions with others. It is impossible to hate when we are in harmony with love.
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